Listening to Oscar Peterson’s beautiful “Love Ballade”
Happy Sunday 🙂
That’s the thing about life;
It is fragile, precious and unpredictable
and each day is a gift, not a given right.
삶은 그런 것 중 하나입니다.
깨지기 쉽고, 소중하며, 예측할 수 없으며
매일 주어진 선물이지, 주어진 권리가 아니라는 것.
A bit of life advice from Hol:
It’s a strange thing to realise and accept your mortality at 26 years young. It’s just one of those things you ignore. The days tick by and you just expect they will keep on coming; Until the unexpected happens.
I always imagined myself growing old, wrinkled and grey- most likely caused by the beautiful family (lots of kiddies) I planned on building with the love of my life. I want that so bad it hurts.
That’s the thing about life; It is fragile, precious and unpredictable and each day is a gift, not a given right.
I’m 27 now. I don’t want to go. I love my life. I am happy.. I owe that to my loved ones. But the control is out of my hands.
I haven’t started this ‘note before I die’ so that death is feared – I like the fact that we are mostly ignorant to it’s inevitability.. Except when I want to talk about it and it is treated like a ‘taboo’ topic that will never happen to any of us.. That’s been a bit tough. I just want people to stop worrying so much about the small, meaningless stresses in life and try to remember that we all have the same fate after it all so do what you can to make your time feel worthy and great, minus the bullshit.
I have dropped lots of my thoughts below as I have had a lot of time to ponder life these last few months. Of course it’s the middle of the night when these random things pop in my head most!
Those times you are whinging about ridiculous things (something I have noticed so much these past few months), just think about someone who is really facing a problem. Be grateful for your minor issue and get over it. It’s okay to acknowledge that something is annoying but try not to carry on about it and negatively effect other people’s days.
Once you do that, get out there and take a freaking big breath of that fresh Aussie air deep in your lungs, look at how blue the sky is and how green the trees are; It is so beautiful. Think how lucky you are to be able to do just that – breathe.
It is so beautiful. Think how lucky you are to be able to do just that – breathe.
You might have got caught in bad traffic today, or had a bad sleep because your beautiful babies kept you awake, or your hairdresser cut your hair too short. Your new fake nails might have got a chip, your boobs are too small, or you have cellulite on your arse and your belly is wobbling.
Let all that shit go.. I swear you will not be thinking of those things when it is your turn to go. It is all SO insignificant when you look at life as a whole. I’m watching my body waste away right before my eyes with nothing I can do about it and all I wish for now is that I could have just one more Birthday or Christmas with my family, or just one more day with my partner and dog. Just one more.
I hear people complaining about how terrible work is or about how hard it is to exercise – Be grateful you are physically able to. Work and exercise may seem like such trivial things … until your body doesn’t allow you to do either of them.
I tried to live a healthy life, in fact, that was probably my major passion. Appreciate your good health and functioning body- even if it isn’t your ideal size. Look after it and embrace how amazing it is. Move it and nourish it with fresh food. Don’t obsess over it.
Remember there are more aspects to good health than the physical body.. work just as hard on finding your mental, emotional and spiritual happiness too. That way you might realise just how insignificant and unimportant having this stupidly portrayed perfect social media body really is.. While on this topic, delete any account that pops up on your news feeds that gives you any sense of feeling shit about yourself. Friend or not.. Be ruthless for your own well-being.
Be grateful for each day you don’t have pain and even the days where you are unwell with man flu, a sore back or a sprained ankle, accept it is shit but be thankful it isn’t life threatening and will go away.
Whinge less, people! .. And help each other more.
Give, give, give. It is true that you gain more happiness doing things for others than doing them for yourself. I wish I did this more. Since I have been sick, I have met the most incredibly giving and kind people and been the receiver of the most thoughtful and loving words and support from my family, friends and strangers; More than I could I ever give in return. I will never forget this and will be forever grateful to all of these people.
It is a weird thing having money to spend at the end.. when you’re dying. It’s not a time you go out and buy material things that you usually would, like a new dress. It makes you think how silly it is that we think it is worth spending so much money on new clothes and ‘things’ in our lives.
Buy your friend something kind instead of another dress, beauty product or jewellery for that next wedding. 1. No-one cares if you wear the same thing twice 2. It feels good. Take them out for a meal, or better yet, cook them a meal. Shout their coffee. Give/ buy them a plant, a massage or a candle and tell them you love them when you give it to them.
Value other people’s time. Don’t keep them waiting because you are shit at being on time. Get ready earlier if you are one of those people and appreciate that your friends want to share their time with you, not sit by themselves, waiting on a mate. You will gain respect too! Amen sister.
This year, our family agreed to do no presents and despite the tree looking rather sad and empty (I nearly cracked Christmas Eve!), it was so nice because people didn’t have the pressure of shopping and the effort went into writing a nice card for each other. Plus imagine my family trying to buy me a present knowing they would probably end up with it themselves.. strange! It might seem lame but those cards mean more to me than any impulse purchase could. Mind you, it was also easier to do in our house because we had no little kiddies there. Anyway, moral of the story- presents are not needed for a meaningful Christmas. Moving on.
Use your money on experiences.. Or at least don’t miss out on experiences because you spent all your money on material shit.
Put in the effort to do that day trip to the beach you keep putting off. Dip your feet in the water and dig your toes in the sand. Wet your face with salt water.
Get amongst nature.
Try just enjoying and being in moments rather than capturing them through the screen of your phone.
Life isn’t meant to be lived through a screen nor is it about getting the perfect photo.. enjoy the bloody moment, people! Stop trying to capture it for everyone else.
Random rhetorical question. Are those several hours you spend doing your hair and make up each day or to go out for one night really worth it? I’ve never understood this about females 🤔.
Get up early sometimes and listen to the birds while you watch the beautiful colours the sun makes as it rises. Listen to music.. really listen. Music is therapy. Old is best.
Cuddle your dog. Far out, I will miss that.
Talk to your friends. Put down your phone. Are they doing okay?
Travel if it’s your desire, don’t if it’s not.
Work to live, don’t live to work.
Seriously, do what makes your heart feel happy.
Eat the cake. Zero guilt.
Say no to things you really don’t want to do.
Don’t feel pressured to do what other people might think is a fulfilling life.. you might want a mediocre life and that is so okay.
Tell your loved ones you love them every time you get the chance and love them with everything you have.
Also, remember if something is making you miserable, you do have the power to change it – in work or love or whatever it may be. Have the guts to change. You don’t know how much time you’ve got on this earth so don’t waste it being miserable. I know that is said all the time but it couldn’t be more true.
Anyway, that’s just this one young gals life advice. Take it or leave it, I don’t mind!
Oh and one last thing, if you can, do a good deed for humanity (and myself) and start regularly donating blood. It will make you feel good with the added bonus of saving lives. I feel like it is something that is so overlooked considering every donation can save 3 lives! That is a massive impact each person can have and the process really is so simple.
Blood donation (more bags than I could keep up with counting) helped keep me alive for an extra year – a year I will be forever grateful that I got to spend it here on Earth with my family, friends and dog. A year I had some of the greatest times of my life.
..’Til we meet again.
/사랑 에너지/ 🙂
사람들은 누구나 그 내면에 보이지 않는 빛의 에너지를 지니고 있다.
어쩌면 숨어있는 우리의 잠재력을 일깨워 줄 열쇠일지도 모를 이 신기한 에너지는… 자신의 빛과 잘 어우러지는 이를 만나면 원래 에너지의 몇 배, 몇 십 배로 증폭이 되어 눈부시게 아름답게 빛나기도 하고, 잘 어울리지 않는 이들을 접할때면, 각자가 지닌 빛이 서로 충돌하다 결국엔 소멸되어 사라져 버리는 경우도 있을 정도로… 섬세하고 fragile 하게 우리 주변을 감지하며 맴돌고 있다.
부정적인 생각을 하는지, 긍정적인 생각을 하는지.. 선한 일을 하는지, 악한 일을 하는지.. 배려하는지, 이기적인지.., 양심에 어긋난 선택들을 하는지, 내면 깊은 곳에서 울리는 소리를 따라 움직이는지…, 진실되었는지 진실되지 못하였는지…, 사랑인지, 그렇지 아니한지…. .
아마도 알게 모르게 살면서 행해 온 모든 생각과 선택, 각각의 행위들에는 작게 또는 큰 빛을 담은 에너지가 남겨지게 되었을 것이고.., 그러한 에너지가 모이고 또 모여서, 우리 내면에 담긴 빛을 단단하게 형성해 왔을 것이다. 그리고, 그렇게 시간을 통해 다듬어져서 각각 고유의 특성을 지니게 된 개체들이.., 어느 날, 어느 순간, 그 누구도 알 수 없는 이유로 한 순간 서로를 지나친다.
친구로, 연인으로, 가족으로,
동료, 사제 관계… 또는 잠시 스쳐 지나가는 인연으로.
. . . . . . . .
전세계에 다시 열광적인 한류 신드롬을 일으킨 드라마, “태양의 후예.”
주인공을 맡은 송중기와 송혜교씨가 그동안 실제로 열애중이었으며, 드디어 다가오는 10월에 결혼한다는 소식을 접하고 가장 먼저 든 생각은, “참 아름답고 좋은 인연이다”라는 생각이었다.
진실로 사랑하는 연인들, 그래서 서로를 바라보는 눈빛이 따스하고… 함께 할 때면 환하고 아름답게 빛나는 커플을 볼 때면, 늘 그 아름다운 사랑이 잘 이어지기를 바라게 된다. 아마도 송송커플도, 극에서 보여진 모습과 이후의 모습에서 한결같이 느껴지던, 함께 환하고 밝게 빛나는 따스한 느낌 때문에 이번 결혼 소식이 더욱 반갑게 느껴졌으리라.
이 지구상 어딘가에서 우연히 서로가 만날 때까지 각자 만들어 온 세상들… 그렇게 스스로 빛나던 둘이 만나, 더 아름답고 밝게 빛나게 해 주는 사랑 에너지. 🙂 하나가 하나를 만나 둘이 되는 것이 아니라… 하나와 하나가 만나 무한대로 확장되어가는 인연. 함께 있어서 더 기쁘고 충만한…, 나만의 세계도 좋았으나, 그가 있어 더 행복한, 그런 좋은 인연.
드라마의 대사도, 스토리도 물론 좋았지만…, 둘의 아름다운 만남이 있어서 그토록 우리들도 함께 설레이지 않았나 싶다. 눈빛으로, 마음으로, 서로를 알아 보고 진실로 사랑하였기에.
덕분에 영화보다 더 영화같은 심쿵한 소식으로,
함께 마음이 설레여 기분이 좋은 오늘. 🙂
드라마OST 가사처럼, 한 번의 스침에 서로를 알아본
송중기, 송혜교 커플의 결혼을 진심으로 축하합니다. 🙂
[You are my everything] by Gummy
from the K-Drama,
‘Descendants of the Sun’
나에게 다가올 한 사람
단 한 번의 스침에도
내 눈빛이 말을 하죠
인연이 아니길 바래요
바보처럼 먼저 말하지 못했죠
할 수가 없었죠
You Are My Everything
별처럼 쏟아지는 운명에
그대라는 사람을 만나고
멈춰버린 내 가슴속에
단 하나의 사랑
You Are My Everything
하얗게 물들은 그대 모습
한순간에 내게 심장이 멈출 듯
You Are My Everything
별처럼 쏟아지는 운명에
그대라는 사람을 만나고
멈춰버린 내 가슴속에
단 하나의 사랑
You Are My Everything
시작도 못 했던 나의 사랑을
이제는 말할 수 있죠
누구도 가질 수 없는 기적인데
You Are My Everything
뜨거운 내 사랑은 그댄 걸
계절이 변해도 난 이곳에
멈춰버린 내 가슴속에
단 하나의 사랑
You Are My Everything
MORE from the DOTS: 🙂
New York Times Bestseller • National Book Critics Circle Finalist • Wall Street Journal Best Books of 2015 • Kirkus Reviews Best Books of 2015 • Economist Books of the Year 2015 • New York Times Book Review 100 Notable Books of 2015
A sweeping, “magisterial” history of the Roman Empire from one of our foremost classicists shows why Rome remains “relevant to people many centuries later” (Atlantic).
In SPQR, an instant classic, Mary Beard narrates the history of Rome “with passion and without technical jargon” and demonstrates how “a slightly shabby Iron Age village” rose to become the “undisputed hegemon of the Mediterranean” (Wall Street Journal). Hailed by critics as animating “the grand sweep and the intimate details that bring the distant past vividly to life” (Economist) in a way that makes “your hair stand on end” (Christian Science Monitor) and spanning nearly a thousand years of history, this “highly informative, highly readable” (Dallas Morning News) work examines not just how we think of ancient Rome but challenges the comfortable historical perspectives that have existed for centuries. With its nuanced attention to class, democratic struggles, and the lives of entire groups of people omitted from the historical narrative for centuries, SPQR will to shape our view of Roman history for decades to come.
NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER
Yuval Noah Harari, author of the critically-acclaimed New York Times bestseller and international phenomenon Sapiens, returns with an equally original, compelling, and provocative book, turning his focus toward humanity’s future, and our quest to upgrade humans into gods.
Over the past century humankind has managed to do the impossible and rein in famine, plague, and war. This may seem hard to accept, but, as Harari explains in his trademark style—thorough, yet riveting—famine, plague and war have been transformed from incomprehensible and uncontrollable forces of nature into manageable challenges. For the first time ever, more people die from eating too much than from eating too little; more people die from old age than from infectious diseases; and more people commit suicide than are killed by soldiers, terrorists and criminals put together. The average American is a thousand times more likely to die from binging at McDonalds than from being blown up by Al Qaeda.
What then will replace famine, plague, and war at the top of the human agenda? As the self-made gods of planet earth, what destinies will we set ourselves, and which quests will we undertake? Homo Deus explores the projects, dreams and nightmares that will shape the twenty-first century—from overcoming death to creating artificial life. It asks the fundamental questions: Where do we go from here? And how will we protect this fragile world from our own destructive powers? This is the next stage of evolution. This is Homo Deus.
With the same insight and clarity that made Sapiens an international hit and a New York Timesbestseller, Harari maps out our future.
Winner of the Pulitzer Prize for History, the definitive biography of Malcolm X.
Hailed as “a masterpiece” (San Francisco Chronicle), the late Manning Marable’s acclaimed biography of Malcolm X finally does justice to one of the most influential and controversial figures of twentieth-century American history. Filled with startling new information and shocking revelations, Malcolm X unfolds a sweeping story of race and class in America. Reaching into Malcolm’s troubled youth, it traces a path from his parents’ activism as followers of Marcus Garvey through his own work with the Nation of Islam and rise in the world of black nationalism, and culminates in the never-before-told true story of his assassination. Malcolm X is a stunning achievement, the definitive work on one of our greatest advocates for social change.
“An original writer is not who imitates nobody,
but one whom nobody can imitate.”
François-René de Chateaubriand, quoted
Lately I’ve been following this new k-drama series, “Chicago Typewriter”. It’s a love triangle story between three writers from the past. This series became quite popular outside of Korea (like in Indonesia, Malaysia..etc) but wasn’t that successful in Korea.
The first few episodes didn’t really live up to my expectations, but I began to enjoy it more as the series progressed about halfway through. 🙂 My favorite part of the drama was when Go Kyung-Pyo, the ghostwriter, recalled a phrase from “Laziness” by Charles Spurgeon, and courageously decided to finally reach out to his love, Im Soo Jung. I was not familiar with literary works of Spurgeon before, so it was nice to be introduced to a new writer.
Enjoy the music & these beautiful quotes from the “Chicago Typewriter”. 🙂
일제시대를 보낸 작가들의 환생과 로맨스 이야기라고 해서 기대를 가지고 보았지만.. 생각보다 초반 구성이 조금 아쉬웠던 드라마, 시카고 타자기.. 🙂 하지만 중반 이후부터 좋은 대사들과 배우들의 연기덕분에 즐겁게 보았다. 오늘은 반가운 비가 내리다 보니, 유독 이 곡이 귓가를 맴돌아서 짧게 소개하는 글을 올려보았다. 드라마의 하이라이트는 아마도 고경표가 내레이션을 한 찰스 스펄전의 명시가 소개된 부분이 아니었을까.. 사람과 유령으로 만났기에.. 이어질 수 없는것을 잘 알지만, 너무도 사랑하는 여인을 향해 그럼에도 불구하고 용기를 내어 한 마디를 던지던 그의 모습은 간절함 때문이었는지 무척 인상이 깊었다. 아마도 드라마를 보던 사람들 모두가 가슴을 졸였으리라. 🙂
“불러야 할 노래가 있다면 지금 부르십시오.
당신의 해가 저물면 노래 부르기엔 너무나 늦습니다.
당신의 노래를 지금 부르십시오.”
“When roses bloom and the heart flutters
give me that smile of yours
If there is a song you must sing
then sing it now
for when your day draws to a close
it is already too late to sing.
Sing your song now”
– Yoo Jin Oh, quoted from Laziness by Charles Spurgeon
“If you think of something to do, then do it now
Today may be a clear day
But you do not know if you may see clouds tomorrow
Since yesterday is no longer yours, do it now
If you have a kind word to say, say it now
For you may not have tomorrow
The person you love won’t always be by your side
If you have something loving to say, say it now
If you wish to smile, then smile now
Do it now
Before your friend leaves you”
– Yoo Jin Oh, quoted from Spurgeon’s poem
[지금 하십시오] by 찰스 스펄전
할 일이 생각나거든
오늘 하늘은 맑지만
내일은 구름이 보일는지 모릅니다.
어제는 이미 당신의 것이 아니니
친절한 말 한마디가 생각나거든
내일은 당신의 것이 안 될지도 모릅니다.
사랑하는 사람이 언제나
곁에 있지는 않습니다.
사랑의 말이 있다면
미소를 짓고 싶다면
지금 웃어 주십시오.
당신의 친구가 떠나기 전에
장미가 피고 가슴이 설레일 때
지금 당신의 미소를 주십시오.
불러야 할 노래가 있다면
당신의 해가 저물면
노래 부르기엔 너무나 늦습니다.
당신의 노래를 지금 부르십시오.
Chicago Typewriter Wiki Facts:
Synopsis: Writers that lived under Japanese rule in the 1930’s are reincarnated into a bestselling writer who is in a slump, a mysterious ghostwriter and an anti-fan of the bestselling writer.
“I have read a certain book; when I finished it, I closed it, put it back on the shelf in my library— but there were certain words in that book which I cannot forget. They have penetrated so deeply into me that I cannot separate them from myself. Henceforth, I am no longer the one I was before I met them.”
-Andre Gide, quoted in Chicago Typewriter